Tuesday, 20 September 2011


I lost my aunt on the 14th September this year. She is my mom's only sister. Even though at age 79, she was still physically strong and was able to travel to many places with my mom. It was only early this year in March, they both went to China and today, part of me still couldn't accept the fact that she is gone forever.

I only have 1 aunt. And while my sister and I were away in Malaysia, she was one of the few who kept my mom company and very often traveled to China and many places with her. Very often when I called my mom, she was always next to her at Hougang Mall having lunch or coffee. Even though my mom and her were 11 years age gap apart, they were almost as close as twins sister. They both shared the same sense of humour and my mom looked upon her very much.

During their younger days, my aunt had to work in order to support the family. She and my grandmother provided daily meals for the family while my mom and uncle were still studying. Thus, till this day, my mom felt that she has owed her sister a lot and the kindness could never be repaid. I remember aunt as someone very soft spoken, never heard her talking bad about others and very often smiled and happy to see me when I am back in Singapore.

About 3 months ago, she had a very bad stomach and was having several diarrhea. She went to seek for a doctor and doctor sent her to a specialist and was diagnosed as 4th stage liver cancer. The cancer cells not only attacked her liver, it also attacked her colon, cervical and breasts. It was all over her body and they couldn't operate or perform chemotherapy for her due to her old age and in her advance stage of cancer. So it was sort of "Let it be" and "Let her die" situation.

It was very devastating for the family especially my mom. Seeing her lost weight overnight and becoming frail daily, was a very painful sight for us. I tried every way to make her feel better. I traveled 120km from KL to Seremban to get her a few pack of Sabah Snake Grass leaves and also tea bags for her. I also seek help from friends who has remedy to cure cancer. It was a non-stop traveling around and visiting her every time I went back to Singapore. Nothing helps. I tried to spread her gospel during the last 2nd time I visited her. She didn't accept. And I lost her completely on the 14th...It was painful for me, my mom and everyone in the family. She was very dear to us. I wasn't blessed with many aunts like some of my friends. I only have 1 and so when we lost her, life will be very different. I would need to spend more time with my mom. We (my Sister and I) would need to go back more often. Our mother's sister and also her best friend is gone. There will be a portion of our time be allocated just for my mom from now on...

I would like to end my entry by thanking my aunt:
"大姨, 谢谢您陪伴我们的妈妈。感谢您给她和小舅的养育之恩。感谢您对我们大家的疼爱。我们会非常的想念您。 希望上帝能够接纳您。但愿能在天堂与您相见...."

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